“You show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.” – John Wooden
Sometimes it’s really hard to not concentrate on others. Whether we have friends who are the exact same age as us, and make 3 times our salary, or family members who might actually be jealous or have negative feelings towards us, or even co workers who aspire to be us. There is noise everywhere in today’s world. Social Media of course can embellish the noise, but no matter what we do people will always have opinions of you; and we’ll always have opinions of ourselves, some of which can be based on other’s opinions of us (does that make sense?) Humans are a very inquisitive species, we are always judging one another, sizing each other up and evaluating who is the alpha in a relationship (we actually do this subconsciously). So how do you block out the noise? When your closest family and friends might not have the best feelings towards your goals or you might even be jealous of your family and friends; how do you overcome these feelings? In today’s blog I’m going to provide a little bit of insight of how you can overcome the noise.
My biggest kryptonite growing up was comparing myself to others; hell, I still do it to some extent. I’m at an age where my friends have amazing careers, they’re starting families, and getting on with their lives; which I’m so incredibly blessed to see. Yet, I have a different path. Would I love a family one day? Of course. However there is nothing about working a 9-5 job until I’m 65 that interests me. Typically when I tell people the amount of hours I work I’m usually met with the “oh that sucks” mantra. What they’re not getting is that I am laser focused on financial freedom. Why? Because if I ever did have a family I wouldn’t want to miss a single school play or baseball game. I’d want to be there for everything, and a 9-5 job might not allow me to have that freedom I want. To separate yourself from the noise connect to your utmost highest goals. What do you want to be? Not in a career sense, but on a human level. What type of person do aspire to be and why?
To block out the noise you need to not only solely focus on your mission and goals, but to actually stop caring, to some extent, about what other people think of you. For me, this was extremely difficult. We all want to make our parents and friends proud. But sometimes we need to make ourselves proud and do what it is we want or need to do.
The final step to block out the noise is to surround yourself with people who are on the same mission as you are. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “you’re the average of the five people you hang out with the most” well this is honestly true. Studies have shown that when you associate with people who are higher achievers you become a higher achiever; studies have also shown if you associate with unmotivated people or individuals with a negative mindset you will also take on that mantra. We are creatures of our environment and when it comes to our goals and success we need to create that environment for ourselves. The best and easiest way to do this is to associate with like minded individuals.
How do we do this? This is where social media shines. It is so incredibly easy to go to a Facebook, LinkedIn, or Twitter group of like minded individuals and start associating and connecting. Many are under the assumption that connection needs to take place in person, and although it is more powerful and possibility more authentic, joining a group that you feel connected to via social media can have the same outcome you might be striving for.
What kind of environment do you want to create for yourself? What are your goals? What is your greatest inspiration? Share your answers on The Thrive Vine and get your intentions, and what you aspire to be, out there. You never know who is watching and who has the exact same goals as you! Comment and let us know your thoughts!